Rune Moelbak, Ph.D.

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Clinical Psychologist, Author of Insight from Better Therapy

Interview with Better Therapy and Author Dr. Rune Moelbak

About Dr. Rune Moelbak: Rune Moelbak, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and ICEEFT certified couples therapist who practices psychology in Houston, Texas. Originally from Denmark, Rune moved to the US at age 26 to pursue his dream of becoming a psychotherapist. When Rune is not doing therapy, you might find him exploring the mountains of Colorado, or being lost in the most recent episode of Twin Peaks – The Return.

[] Why did you originally create a blog about individual and couples therapy to supplement your practice at Better Therapy?

[Rune Moelbak, Ph.D.] As a psychologist who gets to experience how change happens in therapy every day, I often find myself at odds with the more dominant narrative of mental health offered by the so-called “medical model.” Instead of viewing mental health in terms of diagnoses, symptoms, and meaningless behaviors, I wanted to give voice to the inner complexities and meanings of our human struggles as they get revealed to me in the process of working deeply with people’s issues in psychotherapy.

[] What do you hope to achieve by maintaining Insight - A Blog for the Critical Consumer of Psychotherapy?

[Rune Moelbak, Ph.D.] My hope is that readers of my blog will gain a deeper insight into the unconscious dynamics and meanings of the various ways in which we struggle. Oftentimes our symptoms can be understood as the result of a process of self-discovery that has been prematurely halted. Each of my blog posts has the intention of reinitiating the process of self-discovery by asking new questions of old problems, or fuelling the person’s renewed curiosity about themselves and about the human condition.

[] We have highlighted your post “The Illness is the Cure: The Forgotten Wisdom of our Psychological Symptoms” as a resource on addressing the reasoning for the appearance of our symptoms in relation to mental health. What are some ways you help your clients reveal their psyche’s wisdom to themselves?

[Rune Moelbak, Ph.D.] Therapy starts with making the client curious about themselves and the reasons behind their symptoms. I help guide them toward an encounter with what is at the edge of their awareness so they can have a new experience of themselves and gain access to memories or feelings which had previously been ignored, avoided, or forgotten. Through this process of self-discovery the root causes of the client’s distress are often discovered and they are no longer forced to fall into the same old patterns.

[] As a psychologist with the belief that counseling is a process of self-discovery, in what ways do you decide on content for your blog to support your clients?

[Rune Moelbak, Ph.D.] The content for my blog often emerges out of whatever readings, workshops, or client issues I have been encountering that have brought up interesting questions for me about therapy or the human condition. I am always looking to introduce a slightly new or unfamiliar take on issues or problems that are familiar.

[] In your most recent post “Why People Often Choose Misery Over Change” highlights the internal decision of remaining comfortable rather than facing change. Why did you decide to create this content for your readers?

[Rune Moelbak, Ph.D.] Like most of my blog posts, this one was born out of recent readings which had brought me back in touch with an age old dilemma in psychotherapy. This dilemma, as I describe in the blog, is that the closer you bring a client to their core conflict, the greater their desire is going to be to quit therapy and return to their old ways. This conflict is often referred to as a client’s unconscious resistance to change and it reveals something important about why we suffer. It challenges the idea that our symptoms are meaningless, and replaces it with the idea that we are actually quite attached to the behavior that produce our symptoms. Because the blog post unsettles a common sense understanding that people simply want to get rid of their suffering, it fits well with the overall intent of the blog which is to offer uncommon wisdom that makes readers think.

[] You also offer your clients and readers “Couples Insight.” What is the influence for you to create this blog on making relationships work?

[Rune Moelbak, Ph.D.] After a period of interspersing my more philosophical and thought provoking articles on themes of mental health with more practical articles on how to better navigate romantic relationships, it became clear to me that I was really writing for two very different audiences. I therefore decided to create a new blog focusing exclusively on relationship issues, and keep my insight blog more targeted to general questions regarding therapy and mental health. The articles on my relationship blog draw from my experience as a certified couples therapist and marriage counselor, as well as my training in very specific couples therapy approaches like the Gottman Method and Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy. Readers of my relationship blog will find tips and techniques about how to resolve different problems most couples are faced with.

[] Can you tell us more on what has influenced you to specialize in depression, social anxiety and addressing relationships?

[Rune Moelbak, Ph.D.] Depression, social anxiety, and relationship issues are easily identifiable problems that many people acknowledge struggling with to some degree. In this way they serve as good handles or doorknobs that open the door to understanding deeper emotional and personal struggles. They serve as starting points for exploring reasons why people have developed a negative view of themselves as inadequate, weak, ostracized, shameful, frightened, or alone. So depression, social anxiety, or relationship issues are often the symptoms that get a person to seek therapy, but coming to terms with oneself and one’s past is often the destination all people have to reach regardless of what first brings them in.

Thank you for your time Dr. Moelbak. Learn more about the Better Therapy blog on our Top Therapy Blogs list.